St. Valentine’s Day is drawing near, and you still have no idea how to turn it into a romantic date with your partner. I’ve been in your shoes too many times to count. Today I’ll share three foolproof ideas you can customize to suit your needs. But first, let’s go over a couple of bitter truths that will steer you away from mistakes and heartbreak.
What Makes a Date Romantic?
Every night may seem romantic when you are in the honeymoon phase. However, even St. Valentine’s Day can be ruined if your boyfriend or girlfriend is in a sour mood after a hard day. To ensure your special date is successful, remember three simple rules:
- It must be something you BOTH enjoy. Don’t try to make it all about your SO, however romantic it might seem at first glance. They will notice you aren’t enjoying yourself, and it will ruin the mood for both of you. If your girlfriend enjoys baseball, and you don’t, give her a couple of tickets to watch a game with a friend instead of suffering through it yourself.
- It must be FUN, exciting, and exhilarating. Relationships need powerful emotional outbursts to last, and it’s always better if these emotions are positive. For this reason, spending the night binging rom-coms is not your best choice. It’s way too passive to cause a powerful hormonal reaction. Even a simple walk outside would be preferable to vegging out on the couch.
- It won't be what you EXPECT. If you imagine your boyfriend popping a question at a romantic meal at the best restaurant in town, you might get disappointed. If you expect creative sex positions just because it’s St. Valentine’s Day, you might get disappointed. Do not wait for real life to look like your favorite rom-com and enjoy the time together.
Cook a Romantic Dinner Together
Don’t cook dinner alone to present to your soulmate! Do it together, and you will hit all three points on my list. It’ll be fun to mess around in the kitchen, you can do it together, and you won’t expect the other to be over the moon about your creations. It’s a win-win-win.
What if neither of you can cook? That’s even better!
Find an online tutorial you like. YouTube is full of romantic meal recipes for St. Valentine’s Day. Follow instructions, and you’ll be fine. Even if you have no idea what you are doing, you can have fun role-playing chef and sous-chef of a Michelin restaurant. Microwave mug recipes are there for you if you mess up on your first try.
A couple of helpful suggestions if you go this way:
- Read comments and ask questions under the video to make sure you’ve got everything right.
- Stock up on candles to make any dinner you cook romantic, but don’t leave them unsupervised.
- Leave cleanup for the morning, unless both of you enjoy washing up and drying.
Try Something New
Think back over the last months of your relationship and remember the things you both wanted to try but never had the time for. St. Valentine’s Day gives you a perfect opportunity to show off how thoughtful and attentive a partner you are. To stay on the safe side, subtly bring up the subject again before booking any appointments.
You can go horseback riding, listen to an opera, or attend a painting class. The key here is to do it together for the first time. If that’s not the case, one of you might feel bored, while the other might feel stupid for not getting it perfect on the first try. When you experience a new activity together, it will bring you closer and provide food for exciting discussions over your romantic dinner. Plus, you’ll have the bragging rights when you go on double dates or parties in the future.
I have one last warning before you choose your “something new”. Don’t go all out on your first try. If there is a novice yoga class, select it instead of a 2-hour intensive workout for advanced athletes. You want it to be exciting, something you might want to do more together in the future. Overdoing it on your first try can ruin the day and discourage you from ever returning.
Make It an Anything-Can-Happen Day
This is a perfect approach if you cannot celebrate on February 14 and postpone your St. Valentine’s Day plans to the next weekend or beyond. Instead of making plans, you go out and explore anything that catches your attention before moving on to the next thing.
Is it a lazy way to plan a date? Sure, but it’s also efficient. You go wherever your imagination takes you, following the mood instead of keeping your reservation when you have no desire to do so.
For the brave souls willing to try out this approach, I have a few pieces of advice:
- Never try this on St. Valentine’s Day or any other holiday. You’ll never get in anywhere nice without a reservation, ruining the whole point of your anything-can-happen date.
- Leave your whole day wide open for this adventure. You can take off in the morning and get back in the middle of the night if you do it right.
- Research exciting options around you and suggest them to your partner, but don’t make any plans. It will give you a better idea of the opportunities you have when you are roaming around.
I know this list is nothing like what you’re used to, but I hope you try out one of these ideas on St. Valentine’s Day or any other time you decide to make your partner’s day. While you’re being a great boyfriend or girlfriend, let SpeedyPaper look over your homework and provide actionable feedback. Check out our essay grading service and focus on your sweet Valentine!